I don't think it has to do with diversifying tribes as much as how comfortable you are with self-isolation?
compartmentalization naturally means that you're kind of you're only companion and your only witness, you're the only one who will see "all" of you. Existentially this is true for everyone to a degree, but individually people are more or less comfortable with that.
I find if you're the type who's very comfortable being alone, it's a lot easier to diversify your tribes and meet people where they are, because you don't really expect them to come home with you (so to speak). However if you aren't comfortable being isolated with yourself, then diversifying your friend groups has a lot of tension because you can feel pulled different ways without a centralized core to ground you.
Personally I live a very compartmentalized life but I wouldn't say I'm comfortable with it, I don't really want to be my only witness to my own life and I feel more comfortable having chosen companions I can share the majority of it with, but for lack of that I had to learn to be comfortable with isolation because I don't really 'fit' anywhere so I kind of have to fracture myself to be visible at different areas. When I was younger this genuinely gave me a crisis about whether or not I was being a liar, a fake, or manipulator, because I couldn't really establish a consistency of who I was to myself so it felt like I was just in different costumes for different people. As a grew, building a consistency was a relief because knowing that I can exist in a more whole way to someone and be diverse of a personality within a singular space was re-affirming of my own authenticity. I can totally understand that guy's discomfort feeling bothered by the disconnect of his many 'lives' and wanting a more visible interaction.
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compartmentalization naturally means that you're kind of you're only companion and your only witness, you're the only one who will see "all" of you. Existentially this is true for everyone to a degree, but individually people are more or less comfortable with that.
I find if you're the type who's very comfortable being alone, it's a lot easier to diversify your tribes and meet people where they are, because you don't really expect them to come home with you (so to speak). However if you aren't comfortable being isolated with yourself, then diversifying your friend groups has a lot of tension because you can feel pulled different ways without a centralized core to ground you.
Personally I live a very compartmentalized life but I wouldn't say I'm comfortable with it, I don't really want to be my only witness to my own life and I feel more comfortable having chosen companions I can share the majority of it with, but for lack of that I had to learn to be comfortable with isolation because I don't really 'fit' anywhere so I kind of have to fracture myself to be visible at different areas. When I was younger this genuinely gave me a crisis about whether or not I was being a liar, a fake, or manipulator, because I couldn't really establish a consistency of who I was to myself so it felt like I was just in different costumes for different people. As a grew, building a consistency was a relief because knowing that I can exist in a more whole way to someone and be diverse of a personality within a singular space was re-affirming of my own authenticity. I can totally understand that guy's discomfort feeling bothered by the disconnect of his many 'lives' and wanting a more visible interaction.